Wow. That you chose to attack me says nothing about this essay and everything about you.

The Journal of Pediatrics, the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, reports adoptees are 4x more likely than non-adopted people to attempt suicide. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3784288/

And even worse during adolescence https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/108/2/e30.short

Being adopted doubles the likelihood of having contact with mental health professionals and of having disruptive behavior disorders. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4475346/

Even adoption.com, owned by the adoption agency Gladney, addresses adoptee mental health needs https://adoption.com/6-things-you-should-know-about-adoptees-and-suicide/

These are just a few links, I could continue. One can have a wonderful life and a loving adoptive family (I do) and be negatively impacted by relinquishment. The separation is trauma. I assume you connected with your birth mother for a reason?

You compartmentalize issues that co-exist.

Lastly, you shared your story then stated "leave us out of it'? Aren't you doing what you accuse me of?